Any sort of personality profile is only going to be useful if it resonates with you. If what you get doesn’t ring true at all, perhaps have a look back and see how close you were on the various scales. The Human Metrics site above does tell you if you are marginal/ slight / moderate / distinctive and for any given continuum. In my case, I’ve come up with the profile of both ENFP and ENFJ, because I’m not as strong in the P-J category (in fact when I quickly did the Human Metrics one, my “J” is only 1%) In this case, if I read the ENFP profile and it doesn’t ring true, I can try reading the ENFJ category. If that rings true, then it probably is my personality profile….
For now – We are amazing creatures, us human beings. I don’t think personality is super-fixed. I will likely never “be” and ISTP – the opposite of my personality, but due to different life events and stages, one area might change. Like I say, I’ve been profiled as an ENFP before – indeed I was while in the job where I was bullied. But for now, J (judgement) is coming through more strongly – and probably serving me better than my “percieving” side.
Another thing is that any profile can get along with any profile; it can be the awareness about the differences that helps though. I have seen some people be a bit extreme in this, and have conversations with me all around how I did such-and-such a thing this way because I’m an “F” whereas they are a “T” person. That doesn’t really jive with me so much. Neither does people who decide for themselves what all their friends and relations are. You can guess, and you’ll probably be more-or-less right. But I consider an old piece of advice that I’ve found invaluable (a bit turned around) in this instance: Don’t judge your insides by others outsides. Remember, all you ever really know about other people are their outsides. Personality profiles have more to do with how people actually are, on the inside as well as the outside.
As I mentioned, we all had our MBTI profiles done when I was working in my old job. All I can remember is that the Asshat had two things similar to me and two things which were opposite. Now, one of those things would be around the other way, as I was profiled as ENFP then and am considering myself an ENFJ now. All I really remember was that he was E_ _ _ . I did identify that then a potential part of the problem in our communication, but it certainly never went anywhere when it came to solving these problems we had. Maybe it could have, in another context.
But using the principle of The Past Is In The Past; comparing my personality profile with that of the Asshat is not the point. The point is seeing that there are many wonderful talents that I have (and that you have, when you consider your profile). Abusers can take this away from us. One of the Asshats main message to me was “Stop Being You.” A) That’s crap. B) I couldn’t do it. C) I don’t want to do it. Starting point is NOT to play their game, it’s for you to be you – the amazing, wonderful person that you are.
Wiser Now 